Yes, you’re being sort of selfish but most importantly your also being honest about it. Also, the picture you’re painting is not one of negativity – you don’t want a sports car to impress other people, but rather a home to nurture and enrich other lives.
I think we’re all intrinsically selfish but some of us are much more in denial about it. I’ve had endless arguments with liberal friends about this who think they’re somehow saintly for buying a left-wing newspaper and eating humus. Anyone of them / us could save a life next week by sending sufficient money to the appropriate NGO. But we don’t (as in, we all send only so much money, whatever it happens to be – not all we could), and we come up with excuses.
Better to be honest and alert to how you can help and share more, I say, then in smug denial.
All in my humble opinion!
jacq jolie Said,
I had someone comment recently (not on my site, but on another), that my suggestion that people spend more money if it gives them the desire to make more money was selfish and amoral. They thought I was a horrid person, but they missed my point too – that I didn’t say what I would spend the money ON, I guess they assumed it would be a lexus and a fur coat or something (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
But I like giving things or experiences to other people and making more money lets me do that – and it sounds to me like that’s an integral part of the intention behind your dream house.
Everyone that I know that’s really wealthy that has the kind of big place that you’re talking about is a super-generous person, always having people over etc. People like my wealthy miser-dad that would be unhappy in a place like that don’t have that generosity of spirit.
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Yes, you’re being sort of selfish but most importantly your also being honest about it. Also, the picture you’re painting is not one of negativity – you don’t want a sports car to impress other people, but rather a home to nurture and enrich other lives.
I think we’re all intrinsically selfish but some of us are much more in denial about it. I’ve had endless arguments with liberal friends about this who think they’re somehow saintly for buying a left-wing newspaper and eating humus. Anyone of them / us could save a life next week by sending sufficient money to the appropriate NGO. But we don’t (as in, we all send only so much money, whatever it happens to be – not all we could), and we come up with excuses.
Better to be honest and alert to how you can help and share more, I say, then in smug denial.
All in my humble opinion!
I had someone comment recently (not on my site, but on another), that my suggestion that people spend more money if it gives them the desire to make more money was selfish and amoral. They thought I was a horrid person, but they missed my point too – that I didn’t say what I would spend the money ON, I guess they assumed it would be a lexus and a fur coat or something (not that there’s anything wrong with that).
But I like giving things or experiences to other people and making more money lets me do that – and it sounds to me like that’s an integral part of the intention behind your dream house.
Everyone that I know that’s really wealthy that has the kind of big place that you’re talking about is a super-generous person, always having people over etc. People like my wealthy miser-dad that would be unhappy in a place like that don’t have that generosity of spirit.
So I think it’s awesome. Dream on!